Fateful

5/18/ 2014
All women must be on the look-out for a man to take care of them, in case life leaves them in dire straits. It is the oldest instinct since the dawn of time. Nowadays it is a bit easier for women to make it on their own; they are much less dependent on a man's
physical strength for protection. But the instinct is still there in the shivering chill of a winter night. Sue and I came very close to a divorce in the early 1970s when I decide to return to UNLV for at least one more year, a great disappointment for Sue as she did not like Las Vegas and had promised herself not to return. In time-honored fashion she looked to another man to keep her in Eugene. If she had to sleep with a "banger," so be it. Things could be worse. She was already sleeping with Harry Gross, a man 24 years older than she who was quite willing to move her in with him.They planned to work together on her movie, her Master' project. It was pure survival mode, although she saw other aspects to the situation. He did give her the rent-free house he had promised her. I wasn't happy how things worked out but I understood her options were few. But happily it worked out as she came home from the trip to Asia with a change of heart. She had taken a second look at our relationship, a ten year investment, and decided to stick with me, mostly because she wanted to have her babies with me, as Harry was well beyond being a father again. On the practical level she now had a Trust to look forward to when her parents died. It was an insurance policy for both of us. I ended up putting in 29 years of labor to contribute to our passage through time.